If you're new to the lifestyle and looking to connect with like-minded individuals in the vibrant city of New York, you've come to the right place. In this blog post, we'll explore a range of resources available to help you build your ENM community.
Let’s dive in.
When it comes to finding potential partners in the non-monogamous dating scene, two apps stand out: Feeld and Beyond.
Feeld ENM dating app is a haven for the adventurous, it presents an immense pool of individuals seeking unique connections and experiences. What sets it apart is the upfront honesty about people's desires and preferences. No matter what floats your boat, you will find someone that enjoys the same. The app and community is very inclusive and has a many options to choose from when identifying your gender and sexuality.
On the other hand, Date Beyond is a brand new membership-based app set to launch this summer in NYC. With its curated approach and inclusive, open-minded vibe, it combines the quality and exclusivity of exclusive dating apps like Raya with the freedom of alternative relationship styles: think Raya meets Feeld. Be sure to check out their podcast for interesting and informative chats.
Are you ready to let go of the dating app chaos and indulge in a more refined approach?
While dating apps are a popular choice, they can be time-consuming. For those seeking a more efficient way to navigate the ENM dating scene, consider exploring Velvet Ties, the first ENM matchmaking service. Although it comes with a higher price tag, Velvet Ties offers personalized matches for both individuals and couples. They are even launching a casual dating membership model soon, where a human — not machine — will set up dates with others interested in casual connections.
Having a supportive community around is crucial when exploring ethical non-monogamy. In NYC, you'll find several where non-monogamy thrives.
Lightning Society, an intentional co-living community, aims to bring back a sense of community in urban living, emphasizing long-lasting relationships. They host dinners, saloons, parties, and group travel events year round! Their most unique NY-based event is a takeover of upstate New York's outdoor sculpture museum Storm King, where almost 200 people spend the day exploring. It happens every year in October, be sure to not miss it.
GOSPËL, a new-age social club, centers its purpose around music, the arts, and human connection. Their renewed event is a dinner ritual where guided meditations, live performances and a 4-course vegetarian meal come together through communal tables of curated diners, co-hosts and collaborators. Unlike other parties, a more low-key event like this one offers more opportunity for meaningful conversations.
House of Yes is a favorite in the community. Located in Brooklyn, they are a collective of creatives, performers, and innovators who foster artistic expression, nightlife, and community. They have recently partnered with Beyond Dating App to throw ENM centered dance parties.
While House of Yes, Gospel, and Lightning Society are not exclusively geared toward ENM, they attract many like-minded individuals and a great way to build community.
Additionally, Open Love NY curates events specifically for the polyamorous and ENM folks. They have been hosting the infamous poly cocktails in lower Manhattan for years, and is a great way to make new friends and meet lovers. You can join their Google Group mailing list or Facebook group to receive announcements about future events.
Bloom Community is the social website and app for edge-of-culture communities that helps you meet people organically through shared events. These groups are often at the boundary of culture, exploring new ways to connect authentically, approaching life with a learning mindset, and creating a more community-minded future. They also have their own ENM Social Club that hosts fun nights out.
Are you ready to turn up the heat and explore your sensual side in a safe and consensual environment? For those looking to explore the sensual side of ENM, attending play parties can be an exhilarating experience.
For the ultimate in sophistication, immerse yourself in the seductive realm of Snctm, where black-tie masquerades, and educational classes on fetish and erotic arts await. Snctm is a highly exclusive and elite club. Their price point is not for everyone, although a very select number of single women make it to their VIP list and are given complimentary tickets. This event is attended mostly by cis-gendered straight men, and cis-women of all orientations.
Hacienda is a community that celebrates play, educates the curious, and creates opportunities to meet new friends and lovers. For those interested in “friendly, fun, and frisky living”, they have a long term co-living home in Bushwick, Brooklyn.
NSFW, the private members' community offers a gateway to a world where pleasure takes center stage. Their inclusive events are open for all on the sexual and gender spectrum. Their clubhouse is also available to its’ members outside of event hours.
If you identify as a bi-curious or bisexual woman, Skirt Club offers a unique and empowering all-female community focused on sexual discovery and empowerment. They have their full event and a shorter mini skirt event. Think smart, professional women looking to meet with like-minded ladies over cocktails.
“Empowerment is not about turning your boyfriend on with another girl. It’s about doing what excites you” Geneviève LeJeune, Founder of Skirt Club
Conclusion:
Congratulations on taking the first steps into the world of ethical non-monogamy! In New York City, you'll find a plethora of resources to support your journey. From popular dating apps like to matchmaking services, there are plenty of ways to meet potential partners. For a true sense of belonging, immerse yourself in the thriving ENM communities, members clubs, and play parties.
